Raising Your Self-Esteem Through Online Therapy

According to Carolyn Cole, LCPC, LMFT, NCC, “Try to think of loving yourself the same way you may experience love with your soulmate.”

Throughout our lives, specific events and experiences occur that can damage our self-esteem. Whether it’s being embarrassed in front of other people, getting called names, or failing an exam, these small events can build up and contribute to damaging our self-esteem.

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Find Your Self-Worth Through Music Therapy

Believing in yourself is not easy. Every day, a lot of people deal with personal issues which may affect how we exude confidence and how we see ourselves. We have to learn how to value our selves so that we begin to trust others.

Fact: Brooke Wachtler, PSYD says “here are four patterns of thinking that spark inner distress: rigid demands, catastrophizing, frustration intolerance, and something she calls “self-downing.”

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How To Set Healthy Boundaries In Your Relationship

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There have been a lot of arguments about the kinds of boundaries that couples should set – and what they can actually do – for their relationships. Some may claim that they don’t need these boundaries, as their partners should already know each other’s limitations. But the truth is that if your relationship is healthy, then it must have boundaries. It can’t be strong and productive until both partners convey their restrictions clearly, and each partner respects them. Boundaries MUST be set because they don’t get organized inherently, and they’re not easily created as well.

According to Alonna Donovan Makinson, MA, LPCC-S, You should still listen to your discomfort, as “this may be an indicator that your partner isn’t prioritizing you in the relationship,”

Here is a comparison of healthy and unhealthy qualities in a relationship:

Healthy

  • You are accountable for making your own happiness.
  • You have friends other than the ones you and your partner make.
  • You accept endings.
  • Communication is honest and open.
  • You acknowledge that you have differences.

Unhealthy

  • You feel incomplete and unimportant without your partner.
  • You are manipulative of your partner.
  • You are in a jealous relationship.
  • You are hesitant and afraid to express how you truly feel.
  • You can’t let go even if you have to.
  • You are not happy without your partner.

According to Lauren Dalton-Stern, LPCC, “Having a strong and fulfilling relationship is absolutely possible when both partners are committed to working as a team and creating a supportive, encouraging and accepting environment.”

Independent boundaries are important no matter how big or small, and they need to be respected. Below is an example of a simple boundary and a serious boundary, to help you have a better understanding of the concept.

Simple Boundary

Your partner has made known to you that he is sensitive with his things so you need to ask him first before using them. You need to call a friend but then your phone is dead. You decide to borrow your partner’s phone but he’s asleep, so you just decide to use it anyway.

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In this example, the boundary set may be really, really simple, and yet this may be a big deal for your partner. Remember that you already know how he feels about his belongings. It is a small thing to ask but nevertheless, you have disrespected it.

Fact: Every person comes into every relationship with both big and small traumas.” – John Harrison, LPCC

Serious Boundary

You have honestly told your partner that you are the type who doesn’t want to be controlled in a relationship, especially when it comes to family and friends. Your partner calls you one night and asks you if you have plans, and you tell him that you’re going to a friend’s birthday party. Your partner says you can’t go but if you insist, he won’t go with you to your family reunion. Just because you don’t want that to happen, you make an excuse not to attend your friend’s birthday.

Here, it is clear that you don’t want to be someone who is controlling and manipulative. Not only did your partner disrespect your boundary; you yourself were not strong in standing by your own boundary.

Whether you think that the boundary set by your partner is major or not, it shouldn’t be neglected or disrespected. If, on the other hand, you are inconsistent with your own boundary because you are scared of your partner or you just don’t want a fight, then it’s a huge red light. Healthy relationships don’t feed on fear and manipulation.

Want your partner to feel loved, respected, and valued? Here’s what you do:

  • Listen to your partner so you’ll know what he or she wants. If there is something that you want to say, be honest. Perhaps you can meet halfway.
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  • Don’t put words into your partner’s mouth. If she sets the boundary, don’t tell her that she said otherwise just so you can get your way. Make an effort to show him or her that you recognize the boundaries and you follow through with actions.
  • Let go if you have to. When all boundaries have been set and all efforts have been done to respect those boundaries, yet both seem to find a compromise, perhaps it’s time to move on.

 

 

 

 

How To Love Someone Without Losing Yourself

Cecilia Dintino, PsyD, on the issue of loving one’s self, says “Future self-prospecting is a collaborative project. Our futures are culturally constructed. We build upon that which was, is and could be, collectively. We never start from scratch.”

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When you’re starting a relationship, you seem oblivious to what problems or future situations you’ll go through. You and your partner are initially at your best and feeling like you’re the best for each other. You don’t want anything to spoil the intimate connection so you strive to share and do everything together. The bond becomes stronger and you think more about your future with the person you love. Eventually, you will see yourself as a reflection of him, as two people become one.

However, as the ‘unification’ continues, you may realize later that you have lost your independent self. True, becoming one is a celebration of love and togetherness. But the journey doesn’t typically happen smoothly, and in the long run, you might not be able to take the fact that you have lost yourself in the relationship. So where did you end and where did your partner begin to engulf your identity?

Losing Your Identity

Once you realize this, there is a higher likelihood that you will grow bitter about giving up some crucial parts of yourself, particularly if your sacrifices and compromises are the usual demands of your partner. This will gradually create internal stress and tension, and the things that you do for the relationship will no longer be voluntary – you will feel that it’s something that you are forced to do. As this continues, feelings of resentment, worthlessness, depression, and insecurity will creep in.

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Let’s consider this example. You and your partner go to a wedding, and when all single ladies are asked to go in front of the single men to dance with, your partner doesn’t dance with you. How would you feel? That your partner doesn’t value you? Is he ashamed to be with you? Or is the relationship simply one-sided – where obviously the side isn’t on yours? Once you constantly think about being on the losing side, you fight for your right to be heard and then you grow angry with your partner and the whole relationship.

Here’s a tip from Erika Martinez, PsyD: “I see [finding yourself] as cultivating a deep understanding of yourself—what’s important to you, what motivates you, why you respond and react as you do, and your values.”

Your Forgotten Self

For a lot of couples, taking senseless stands may be because of your need to release the suppressed parts of yourself. You have forgotten that you do have a self, one that is separate from the relationship. However, if you aren’t able to express it as sensibly and freely, you will eventually feel invalidated and ultimately, lost. This intense version of you will not only affect your relationship negatively but your attitude outside of the relationship as well.

If you think that you and your partner have this kind of relationship now, or if you feel that it is going there, do talk to him about it. You can even see a therapist if you need help dealing with it. A relationship between two people in love should be positive and filled with respect for each other. Positive reciprocal relationships must inspire partners to give themselves both of you respect each other’s independence and limitations. You should feel happy, confident, and free. But if you feel otherwise, perhaps your borders aren’t being valued.

Final Thoughts

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Feelings of anger, insecurity, and resentment can ultimately destroy relationships. In most circumstances, you may need to look for a way out. On the other hand, if you and your partner are willing to change, creating boundaries for each other won’t be difficult, and both of you have sufficient space to grow and improve. The less helpless you feel, the more respect you have for each other, and the positive environment for the relationship and for each of you will flourish.

Alicia Munoz, LPC says “e don’t have to wait till things are “better” to connect with self-approval, pleasure and gratitude. Self-love doesn’t have to be a complicated, unattainable experience that only people who’ve had wildly fortunate lives or a rare great childhood can access.”

 

Losing One’s Identity And The Journey Towards Rediscovery

Carolyn Mehlomakulum, LMFT-S, ATR-BC said “Ignoring our own thoughts and feelings or trying to be someone that we are not often leads to increased stress and anxiety, frustration in our relationships, and feelings of self-doubt.”

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Have you been thinking that you have somehow lost your identity?

My friend Mitch called me with this dilemma. “I think I lost myself. I am totally exhausted and perplexed. I try to go out and do my usual routine but I still can’t shake the feeling. My life’s just so bound to my family and kids that I don’t know how to be happy anymore. I miss my friends, but when they invite me to go out with them, I make excuses not to go because I realize I have so much to do at home. Am I going to be like this forever? Who am I, anyway? Where am I?”

Cecilia Dintino, PsyD said “Increasing our future self-continuity even impacts how we behave ethically in the here and now.”

Can You Relate With The Story Of Mitch?

There are certain points in our lives when we stop and wonder if we are still the same person that we were back when life was simpler. The problem is that we don’t get to these realizations at the same time, which may be a cause for our feeling of isolation.

Some of us find our life’s purpose when we become parents and our kids are the greatest blessings that have we’ve ever received. Others, though, find parenthood to be extremely daunting, and they struggle to keep up with their other relationships. This makes them dread to have other children.

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A divorce also creates a feeling of losing your identity. People may feel that they are incomplete without the other person and that they have lost a major role as a spouse, so what have they become now?

On the contrary, those who reach their mid-30s or 40s feel like it’s the best years of their lives. They go back to partying, going outdoors, and socializing. Maybe they were earning a living early and it has consumed them so much that they want to take a break from it all. They are more inclined to keeping in touch with friends and traveling – their way of finding themselves.

“I see it as cultivating a deep understanding of yourself—what’s important to you, what motivates you, why you respond and react as you do, and your values,” says psychologist Erika Martinez, PsyD.

Finding The Road To Rediscovery

A sense of identity is associated with a sense of purpose – the thought of knowing your place in the world. Here are some questions that may help you find your way back to you.

  • Can you rewire your thoughts on what mattered before and what changed now? If these have indeed changed, maybe what mattered then may not be as important to you now.
  • Can you possibly reconnect with who you are by discovering new things, those that you think are more relevant to you and giving yourself more credit for things that you’re currently doing?

A feeling of uselessness could be the cause of identity loss. Ask these questions to help you better understand.

  • Do you feel like you can’t connect with people anymore, or that you’re hesitant to connect because of fear that they might reject you?
  • If and when you are able to connect, would that connection alleviate your feeling of loss? Would it become relevant to you?

Sometimes, we don’t realize it but at some point, we lose touch of our morals. How we conform to our values often deviates through the years, but only the core values, those that we have learned while we were growing up, stay the same. So when we feel that we have gone far from these values, we become perplexed and unhappy. So you ask:

  • What happened along the way that made me change my values? Is there something going on in my life now that is absolutely opposite with my morals?
  • Can I possibly make small changes with the way I’m living so that I’m a step closer to the things that I value?
  • How will I reward myself when I have successfully taken that step?
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Final Thoughts

These questions and the reflections in this article will hopefully lead you to find your lost self. You may be recreated or modified now because of life’s circumstances, but you will always find your way back to you. Just stop and take the time to focus on rediscovering YOU.

 

 

Teaching Emotional Literacy To Children

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The topic of how emotional literacy helps in achieving higher education, stronger relationships, and optimal health has been prevalent lately. Emotional intelligence is something that parents can teach their children. It is the person’s capacity to manage his emotions, while emotional literacy is his capacity to convey his emotions into words. But overall, both pertain to one’s ability to identify, comprehend, deal with and appropriately convey his emotions.

Jenev Caddell, PsyD says “One of the best things that you can do for your children’s mental health is to help them develop their self-awareness and emotional intelligence (EQ).”

Can Children Learn To Be Emotionally Literate?

Definitely. In fact, some children are so in sync with how they feel that they will find it quite easy to handle various people and situations. Others may require more time and education to achieve this goal. Every child needs to be emotionally literate and they need to be encouraged and inspired to express themselves. By helping them learn, you are enabling them to traverse the not-so-good emotions appropriately and successfully.

What Can You Do To Help Them?

As a parent or guardian, you must:

  • Acknowledge your child’s feelings and their corresponding responses. Take time to think about his reactions and don’t judge right away. Do not criticize either. You can help him identify his emotions like telling him, “I understand that you’re annoyed,” or, “That’s wonderful! No wonder you’re so excited!”
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  • Encourage him to tell you how they feel. Try to create an atmosphere that’s safe and open so he can comfortably talk to you about his feelings. He should not feel any judgment from you, because if he will, he’ll look for others to open up. When he has confided in you, you can say something like, “Do you think she did the right thing,” or, “How does that make you feel?”

Fact: “The high demands of busy schedules, the pressure to ‘do it all’ and achieve can lead us to become so caught up in daily tasks that the richness of raising children becomes reduced to managing family life, instead of simply being with our children.” – Deniz Ahmadinia, PsyD

  • Identify the motivators that help him do his best. Praise is a good thing, but encouragement is better. Don’t focus so much on the outcome but applaud your child’s behavior and the strategy that he used to achieve his goal. You can encourage him by saying, “I’ve noticed that when the task gets more challenging, you don’t give up but you try even harder – that’s a great attitude.”
  • Teach your child other means of airing his frustrations. Let him know that he has a choice. Your question should be open-ended so he can freely answer you. Something like this: “How can you possibly express your anger or frustration through words and not by throwing things or hitting?” Or, “Can you think of something else that you can do to let your friend know that you are mad at him?”
  • Teach your child ways that would help calm him down when he is angry or sad or devastated. Let him practice the simplest, easiest, and most effective lesson – taking deep breaths. Additionally, you can teach him to memorize a mantra, like, “I can control my anger,” or, “I am calm.” Or you can ask him what makes him relax and to let him do it when he needs to, like watching television or playing a game.

Final Thoughts 

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When you have successfully taught, encouraged, modeled, and empowered children to become emotionally literate, you can be sure to watch them thrive and become versatile, confident, and well-balanced adults armed with a positive well being and way of life. Then you have given them the greatest gift.

Bonnie Zucker, PsyD suggests “I do think it’s important to not encourage the child to move on too much or to tell them that we don’t want to talk about this anymore.” Make sure that you know how to let your child know that you are interested in listening to him or her. 

 

Me To Therapist: Why Am I So Depressed?

According to Stephanie Smith, PsyD, “Depression and sadness are often viewed as the same thing. Part of the confusion is that the most recognizable symptom of depression is sadness.”
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For me, it’s quite thoughtless for people to ask someone (me, for example) why he is depressed. From experience, I actually can’t find the exact words to answer the question, “Why are you depressed?” I’ve asked myself that too. “Why am I so depressed?” And the only answer that I can quickly think of is, “I don’t really know.” This has been my dilemma for weeks now, which I would like to ask a professional, a therapist. Why do people like me get depressed? Or how do we know for sure that we are suffering from depression?

Depression May Or May Not Have A Cause

People who are not very well educated about depression falsely think that someone can only be described as depressed if there is a valid reason or cause for him to suffer from depression. They don’t react so rudely if you just lost a job, experiencing grief from losing a loved one, or discovered that you have a chronic illness. These are for them justified enough for someone to be depressed ed.

However, most of us who are diagnosed with depression really can’t find a reason and a cause for feeling profoundly sad for long periods. Depression is frequently painful, and it is usually hard for people because they do not comprehend this part of the condition because again if no cause or impulse drives the depression, there is no cause for getting depressed. And for me, that is such a devaluing notion – for them to somehow tell me that I shouldn’t be feeling the way I’m feeling right now.

Brandy Benson, PsyD said “Issues can range from depression to anxiety to marital problems. The aim is prevention – not reaction to whatever has happened.”

Depression Is Unintentional

Take it from me – depression is not something that I intended to suffer from. I didn’t voluntarily welcome it into my life, and I can’t just snap out of it if I want to get rid of it. If this were the case, then I wouldn’t need the help of a therapist, prescription meds, or other therapies. Just like any officially diagnosed medical condition, depression compels us to seek mental healthcare services so that we are taken cared of appropriately. Depressed individuals aren’t lucky enough to wake up the next day feeling energized and happy and able to say, “Yes, the depression’s gone!” NO. In fact, if they’re not treated, there’s nowhere else they’d rather be but in bed, alone and hopeless.

Depression And Sadness

All of us experience feeling sad or gloomy sometimes. A man may feel miserable for a week because he lost his favorite game. A woman may feel angry and blue over an argument she has with her best friend. Most likely, they will get over the hurt after a few days or a week, or maybe they won’t (and the hurt may progress to depression). For those who lost a job, went through a divorce, or diagnosed with cancer, the grief may be intensely distressing and may lead to depression.

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Depression happens when sadness becomes extreme, lasting for at least 2 weeks or even longer. The extreme sadness hinders one to normally perform his everyday activities like going to work, sleeping enough hours, or eating properly. Some depressed people think about ending their life because of too much guilt within them.

TRIVIA: “Mental health experts agree that women can sometimes experience PTSD in different ways than men. For example, women with PTSD are more likely to feel depressed and anxious, as well as have trouble feeling or dealing with their emotions.” – Colleen Cira, PsyD

Depression Is Real But It Can Be Treated

Although one cannot get rid of his depression in just a wave of his hand, it can fortunately be cured or controlled through effective treatment. Such treatments include the use of antidepressants to suppress the overwhelming emotions that drive the individual to hurt himself. Psychotherapy is also one of the most efficient methods of teaching the individual various coping skills that would help him tackle his irrational depressive symptoms.

From the beginning of my treatment, I was surrounded with people who love and care for me and they are still with me until now as I am going through the struggle of trying to manage myself and heal from my past hurts. Having your loved ones with you makes the whole journey a lot easier.

Conclusion

The stigma around depression and other mental health disorders still persists worldwide. There is still reluctance that is associated with visiting a professional for mental health problems. It is unfortunate that depression is frequently seen as a weakness instead of something that is a major dilemma in the family and the community that needs attention and care.

People with depression who have not yet come forward about it are still suffering pointlessly. Suppressed emotions and unspoken concerns can worsen depression. It is indeed crucial for them to receive professional help.

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So is depression treatable? Yes, definitely. It is very possible, especially if the depressed individual gets competent medical and mental healthcare. Therapists, psychologists, and psychiatrists are among the professionals with a track record on knowledge, experience, and skill to walk these individuals through their journey towards healing and recovery.

 

 

How To Live A Happy Life

If there is one vital thing that you need to achieve in this life, it is finding yourself in a true state of happiness. You must be able to get the kind of life you deserve. It is essential for you to start finding ways on how you can accomplish pure bliss, despite the challenges and hardships that come your way. According to some famous psychologists, happy life can only be achieved if one starts to change his mindset or outlook about everything that he encounters daily.

Ashley Eder, LPC said “If you’re experiencing emptiness that’s more like a gaping hole, acknowledge it, and be gentle with yourself.”

 

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In this article, we are going to focus on providing you with some tips and tricks on how you can still become happier than ever. Here are the techniques that you must always remember:

 

Prioritize Self-Care

 

Before you do anything or make a decision, be sure that you think of your own welfare instead of others. It is not selfish to put your personal interests as a top priority. Stop thinking of what others may say because of your choices and actions. Instead, focus on improving yourself and attending to your needs. You will be surprised at how easy it can be on your part to be happy once you begin to do all these fantastic things.

 

Eat A Balanced Diet

 

As part of taking good care of yourself, it is ideal if you will start to stick into a balanced diet. Be sure to convince yourself in controlling your food intake so that you can live a healthy and fit lifestyle. Take note that poor food choices and lack of necessary nutrients can increase the health risks that you can encounter. At the same time, it can also make you vulnerable to viruses. When all these happen, you will start to become moody and cranky because of your medical condition.

 

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According to Kirsten Brunner, MA, LPC, “Self-care is any activity or choice that allows a person to replenish, rejuvenate or reserve energy.” It is about prioritizing our needs so we can be “fully present when caring for or connecting with others.”

Be With The Right People

 

If you want to continue living a happy and exciting life, it is best if you will make an effort to surround yourself with the right set of people. Be with the kinds of friends who will lift you in times of troubles instead those who will celebrate your misery. It can be confusing to choose who your real friends can be, which is why you can take this process slowly and carefully. Do not rush into making friends, especially if you are not yet sure if you share the same values or preferences. Conversely, keep yourself away from toxic people so that you will not be affected by their negativity.

 

Follow Your Dreams

 

Stop living a life that is full of regrets. Instead, focus on knowing what you want to achieve and think of the proper ways on how to reach your dreams. Do not listen to the people who always make you feel that you are insufficient or that you are a failure. Instead, show them that you can be a fantastic individual who can turn his dreams into reality. Never stop the fight until you have reached the level that you have always wanted to be. Celebrate the little joys of life.

 

“One thing that powerfully impacts self-esteem is to move something off the back-burner.” explains Mike Ensley, LPCC.

 

Focus On The Good

 

As already mentioned above, there are several instances in your life when you would come face-to-face to challenges. Instead of giving up because you experienced a setback, be sure to fight back and keep going. All that you must do is to focus on the good. Remember all the people, circumstances, events and things that you have in your life. Be thankful for their presence so that it will be easy for you to feel better about everything.

 

Take A Break

 

Another thing that you have to consider if you want to have a stress-free life is to learn the art of taking a break from anything or anyone that causes you anxiety and sadness. For example, if you believe that your work is already stressful on your part, then be sure to ask for a quick leave wherein you will go on vacation and spend some quality time with your family and friends. Aside from this, you can also simply rest at home away from your stressors.

 

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Happiness is not difficult to achieve as long as you know the correct things to follow. Make it a habit to smile and be grateful to attract more good vibes in your life.

 

How To Choose Sunglasses Based On Facial Structure

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You do not need the help of an offline or online therapy expert to find out the reasons why people wear sunglasses. Some use it mainly to protect their eyes from the glare of the sunlight; others wear it because they look good with them on or they match their outfit. Meanwhile, there are also individuals who put on sunglasses to exude a mysterious effect that draws even strangers toward them.

However, you should be aware of the fact that not all spectacles can look amazing on you. Some shades can make your face appear bigger or cause you to resemble someone from an alien planet. The reason is that you have to consider your face shape before investing your money to a pair of sunglasses. It is no different from when selecting your hairstyle, to be honest. In addition to that, high-quality spectacles do not come cheap; that’s why you have to ponder about it well.

Here are some ideas on choosing sunglasses based on your facial structure.

Round Face

If you have a face that is the same shape as Drew Barrymore’s, then I suggest that you get sunglasses that have rectangular lenses. That will offer the illusion of a narrower and thinner face, considering geometric frames make your facial features more defined and upturned structures allow the upper portion of your face to become more noticeable. And those who said that wearing black can make you look good all the time? Congratulate them because they are right. Try wearing spectacles that have black frames to make your face slimmer.

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Oval Face

For the women who have a face shape that’s similar to Julia Robert’s and Beyonce’s, think of yourself as a lucky individual. It is not only because your facial structure is almost the same as your idols’ but also because you can wear nearly all kinds of frames and lenses. The only exceptions are those overly large spectacles that can already cover your facial assets.

Oblong Face

Narrow-shaped faces like Sara Jessica Parker’s and Gwyneth Paltrow’s should opt for shades that have big lenses and thick frames. The latter will allow your face to appear shorter, while the former accentuates the top part of the face.

Square Face

Demi Moore and Brad Pitt are just two of the famous Hollywood celebrities who have strong, angular jaws. For those who have a face shape as they do, you will want to avoid geometric frames because they will make your face shape more pronounced. Instead, go for egg-shaped lenses, rounded, oval or sweetheart frames, and classic wayfarers, which may all soften or complement your robust features.

Diamond Face

People who have a face shape like Madonna’s are sometimes mistaken to have square jaws. In truth, however, diamond-shaped faces have smaller forehead and jaw, while the other one has a full forehead and a defined jaw. Diamond faces, for that reason, are supposed to wear sunglasses that have oval frames to match the shape, as well as upswept frames to accentuate the cheekbones. Turn your back on the sunglasses that have narrow frames because they can only make others focus to your narrow forehead.

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Triangle Face

Renee Zellweger has a slender forehead that widens until it reaches the chin. Those who have a face shape like this should wear sunspecs that have frame bottoms that are either curved inward or part-rimless to pronounce the top portion of the face.

Heart Face

The famous personalities who have this face shape are Jennifer Aniston and Reese Witherspoon. They look fabulous in spectacles that are oversized because it balances their facial features and makes their chins look more extensive than they genuinely are. Small, round frames are ideal for heart-shaped faces as well because they soften the appearance of a broad forehead.

Final Thoughts

Now, assess your face in front of the mirror thoroughly. What is its shape? How prominent are your cheeks, chin, and forehead?

I am quite sure that you already have formed an image of the perfect sunglasses that will suit your face shape at this point. The main thing that you ought to keep in mind is that you should not grab the first pair of spectacles that you see at the store. More than the price, the design or the brand, consider your face shape. That may help you to look as incredible as the Hollywood celebrities you idolize, especially with the sunglasses on.

Seeking An Online Therapist: Road To Better Self-Care

How much do you know yourself? Are you aware of your strengths and weaknesses? Can you identify when you need help or not? Often people forget how self-awareness eases our everyday troubles. By acquainting with yourself better, you’re more in tune with what your body wants and needs. Self-awareness is the ability to take a good, honest look at your life unattached and without bias, clearly able to tell between right or wrong. But an age where nothing is set in stone and the world doesn’t exist in purely black or whites, can you be self-aware? If not, then is it time to seek an online therapist as a second opinion?

Self-Awareness And Better Self Care

Why should you seek to develop self-awareness? Once developed, this allows you a broader world view. You can change your thoughts about topics you’d never think twice about in the past and will be able to adjust interpretations in your mind. Changing the understandings in your mind allows you to change your emotions. Self-awareness is one attribute of Emotional Intelligence and an essential factor in achieving success.

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Self-care is what happens when you have a sense of self-awareness. By understanding yourself better, you know what your body is feeling. Good self-care reduces overall anxiety and improves your mood. It also results in a better relationship with others, and of course, with yourself. However, this awareness does not come quickly to just everyone. Past traumas and different experiences contribute significantly to how we see ourselves and others. If you associate more with the latter, then how can you achieve self-awareness and practice self-care?

Fact: “Procrastination does more than just stress you out—it can also take a toll on your self-esteem.” – Mike Ensley, LPCC

The answer lies in a traditional method recommended by psychologists and therapists: seeking help and beginning therapy. The stigma towards enrolling yourself in treatment should be eradicated. Seeking help for the betterment of yourself is a big step towards your personal growth and recovery. But because these misconceptions are still prevalent in our society at present, a lot of people refuse to seek therapy out of fear of judgment by others and out of embarrassment. Recent developments in the field of therapy, however, provide us with an alternative. The alternative? Online therapy.

What Is Online Therapy?

But what exactly is online therapy, and how will this lead you to better self-care and awareness? Online therapy, also known as e-therapy, e-counseling, teletherapy or cyber-counseling, is a relatively new development in mental health in which a therapist or counselor provides psychological advice and support over the internet. Support and therapy happen through email, video conferencing, online chat, messaging, or internet phone. Online therapy can occur in real-time, such as in phone conversations and online chat rooms, or in a time-delayed format, such as through email messages.

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Online therapy is accessible and a viable solution for the problem concerning the stigma against people who attend therapy. By conducting sessions via an online medium, patients can get counseling at the comfort of their own homes, free from judging eyes. If you want to learn more about yourself, seek guidance or a second opinion on just about anything that bothers you, consulting an online therapist might do you good. Wanting to learn more about yourself and making an effort to be attuned to your own needs is a good indicator of your self-awareness, and is a steady path towards regular self-care.

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According to Ron Siegel, PsyD, “Clients who tend to blame other people for their problems can be uniquely challenging to work with.” As such, it is best if you will exert efforts in participating well during a therapy session.

As you explore yourself with the help of a counselor or a therapist, you have already begun practicing self-care. Similar to how our physical body needs treatment when we get sick, our minds also need to be well taken care of. This is true especially if you’ve noticed that something is wrong or out of place with yourself mentally. To live a truly healthy lifestyle, it is essential to pay attention to both your physical and mental health. Seeking out a therapist should not put you off. If you’re dreading meeting your therapist in person, or dislike the commute on the way to the office, or have a distrust for new situations altogether, online therapy is an option you can consider that might work for you.

Cheaper, accessible and convenient, online therapy gives you the power to choose how to make yourself feel better. Megha Pulianda, M.S., LPC-I said “Saying no to one trivial thing frees up space and time for you to do something else more meaningful. How do you plan to assert and care for yourself?”