The thing that generally gets in our way in achieving something we hope and dream for our family and ourselves is actually “ourselves.” It seems like we can’t see it because we are not fully aware of our potentials. There is no self-awareness. But how would we know if we are confidently capable of doing something?
Without self-awareness, no one is capable of looking into their failures and shortcomings. That is precisely the reason why we seem to ignore the blind spots. Meaning, the specific areas of our lives only run in circles. There are build-ups of tons of excuses and rationalizations of getting stuck within a particular situation because there is always a missing point. That is why in this articles, I will explain the truth of our mindsets that potentially decrease our level of self-awareness.
Lying To Yourself
The first thing to recognize in life is the ability to trust ourselves. That’s because the person that is most likely to lie to us beyond anyone else is specifically us. Since the mind contains a lot of stuff, it creates an idea that only we can determine if it’s something to believe in or not. It is what we call “ego defense mechanism” that automatically functions every time we doubt about ourselves. It is what keeps us safe and puts us in a survival perspective. Though it is something useful in some ways, it makes us behave differently. Meaning, if the things we do doesn’t fit our self-image, it moves us away from being who we are.
When we don’t like the story our mind creates for us, we discount the evidence of each fact that we need to rely upon. Usually, it fits more when we are in a relationship that we are afraid to end. We unlikely admit that we somehow become the person who acts on things based on fear and self-doubt. What we do instead is refusing to listen to all convincing reasons which show us that our relationship will somehow never works. We then start to create tons of rationalizations for why those valid reasons don’t matter anymore. As a result, all the emotionally-charged areas of our lives become a bunch of lies.
Integrity Vs. Honesty
The second thing that helps us get through the fundamental truth we have to balance and accept is to consider honesty over integrity. We might find it counter-intuitive though because integrity is essential in life. That’s where we put value in something we do. But what appears to be the problem is the emotionally-charged areas of our lives that we are not capable of handling. Breaking through the significant situations becomes roughly hard. And because we already build an ego defense-mechanism in us that makes us stick to what we believe is usual, we get stuck. We’re not giving ourselves enough reason why we’re not approaching other options of betterment. Instead, we become doubtful in what we do, and therefore we choose to do stuff the hard way. That’s how we block ourselves from being honest because of the pressure we feel. We act immediately and choose integrity.
The best alternative to deal with this is by permitting ourselves to live paradoxically. We need to admit that there is something we must do to ensure better future decisions. There’s a need to emotionally create a leap and consider things one way or another. That’s because not all things we thought are normal are entirely the right ones. Sometimes, the other options become morally right for us without knowing it. So allowing ourselves to live life in full honesty is always the right decision.
Looking On Disparities
We might exactly know what type of person we are or how good we are with our friends and family. However, there is a thing called “personality disparities.” We might consider ourselves valuing morality, but when we try to look carefully in the evaluation, we might see that there are not so many examples we can provide to prove that we behave in a highly moral way. We can admittedly say that there are tons of out of line behaviors that move us away from morality.
The point of knowing our disparities is to define our identity heavily. It is to get a perspective of who we are. Though sometimes we create a delusion of describing ourselves as someone who is loving, and caring, others might not agree to it. So to understand ourselves better, we need to sometimes rely on other people’s opinion about us. Ask them how we are with them and know things we often ignore about our personalities. They can immediately answer the question because they are capable of witnessing the stuff we don’t want to admit to ourselves.
Self-awareness is something we all have in ourselves. The aim for improvement, development, and impact relies on that particular attitude.