While it is entirely possible to love someone without being particularly fond of yourself, loving yourself does indeed make relationships generally happier and healthier.
1. Avoid Comparisons
First of all, loving yourself means you have confidence in yourself. This will make you less likely to search out comparisons between yourself and other individuals. Your significant other loves you for you; they don’t want you to be someone else. And if they do, then you should not be with them in the first place.
Every time you tell your significant other that you wish you looked like someone else or you wish you talked like someone else, you are labeling yourself as not desirable. Imagine you love someone with everything you have and you would never want them to change, but they continuously tell you that they wish they looked a different way. Odds are, it would make you feel a little bit hurt because they don’t see themselves the way you see them.
2. Set Boundaries
Loving yourself also means that you are confident in who you are and what you deserve. Because of this, you will be more equipped to set boundaries in your relationships.
Don’t be afraid to speak up if you feel like you’re being treated badly, whether by friends or partners. If you feel like the relationship is unhealthy, walk away. You have the right to decide who you hang out with and give your time to.
Boundaries are important because they help you stay in control. When you have boundaries laid out and established early on, your relationship will be able to progress while still remaining in your comfort zone.
3. Accept Compliments
When you genuinely believe that you are a person of value, you are more willing to accept compliments. This will help strengthen your relationship because your partner won’t feel like they have to tiptoe around compliments just to tell you how they feel about you.
Compliments are a huge part of relationships and your partner wants to be able to share their thoughts with you in regards to certain pieces of clothing or hairstyles or general demeanors.
If someone tells you you’re pretty or handsome and you respond by denying it, it creates an awkward tension between you and your partner and it makes them not want to compliment meant you again for fear of the same situation occurring.
Loving yourself will allow you to accept compliments and understand the depth to them. When your partner compliments you, they are showing their love for you. Rejecting a compliment is like rejecting the person in some ways.
4. Take Care Of Yourself
When you love yourself, you treat yourself just as you would treat anyone else that you care about. This means taking care of yourself by engaging in healthy behaviors, avoiding addictions, and staying away from stressful situations that are not necessary.
When you’re in a relationship, you don’t want to rely too heavily on the other person. Yes, you should depend on them, but you should also have the strength to stand on your own two feet when they aren’t around. Loving yourself gives you the ability to fend for yourself and to rely on yourself primarily. Let your significant other take care of you, but make sure that you have the capability of taking care of yourself as well.
Just like you wouldn’t want to spend every second of every day checking on your partner to make sure they were doing exactly what they needed to do, they would rather be spending quality time with you instead of worrying.
Your partner loves you and they want to enjoy fun activities instead of focusing on getting you to see yourself for what you’re really worth.