Love Oneself First, Then Love Another

 

Alfred Lord Tennyson said, “’tis better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all.” But before we come to that, one thing psychiatrists would tell you is that “tis better to love oneself first, then love another.”

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Love, as believed by many, is one of the most precious emotions a human being can feel. Through time, it has been given many different definitions by as many different people. But one particular kind of love–one that is so fundamental–has been very meekly explored by people throughout the centuries. We are talking about the critical matter of self-love.

 

What does self-love do? And how can it pave the way for stronger relationships?

 

  • Self-Love Enables You To Become Mindful

 

Loving yourself means knowing thyself. You acknowledge your needs and wants, your strengths and boundaries, and, ultimately, you realize the things you deserve. Above all, you know that you deserve to be loved as much as you love yourself.

 

With this knowledge, you know that your relationship with your significant other does not define you. It’s the love you have for yourself and the love you both have for each other.

 

  • Self-Love Teaches You To Forgive Yourself

Loving yourself means knowing your limits. And accepting these boundaries. You realize that not every situation requires an affirmative “yes.” Sometimes you have to say “no,” and when they ask why, it’s because you simply love yourself.

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Being aware of the existence of your limits makes you mindful of the fact that your significant other has his or her limits, too. And there’s nothing else to do rather than to support one another.

 

  • Self-Love Embraces Your Imperfections

Loving yourself means knowing you can never be truly perfect. But, you can be the best version of yourself. When you love yourself, you accept your curves and edges, and you know that there are no standards to perfection. When you accept yourself, you erase negativity in life and focus on the beautiful, positive things.

 

As you accept yourself, you also accept the imperfections of your significant other. This mutual acceptance nurtures a more profound bond and a stronger love.

 

  • Self-Love Paves The Way For Self Growth

Loving yourself means always searching for growth. You acknowledge the fact that your soul is thirsty, and you feed it through experiences. These experiences need not be big, grand, and fabulous events. When you appreciate growth, you also value the small things that lead to growth. You know that without these small fractures of events, the grandiose will not happen.

 

Placing high importance on self-growth, you know that your significant other needs to grow, too. Together, you move forward in life, nourish yourselves, and do not get trapped in the past.

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When you love yourself, you learn to value the great power of love. You eliminate toxicity and focus on nurturing the positive things. Loving yourself does not mean becoming selfish and self-centered. Loving yourself means knowing you deserve love. And, equally, when you love yourself, you know that every human being in this world deserves love.

 

 

 

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