You’re sociable, love going out and meeting people. Yet, you feel the need to retreat and have some alone time afterward. Or you could be someone who feels uncomfortable seeing and meeting new faces. Yet, when left on your own, you feel bored and want the company of others. When you and the people around you just can’t seem to categorize you as either an extrovert or an introvert, it could be because you’re somewhere in between these two – someone called an AMBIVERT.
What is an Ambivert?
Think of personality traits as a spectrum. On one end is extroversion – extroverts who are known for their outgoing personalities, the ones considered to be the norm in a society that places value on physical and relational interactions. On the other end is introversion – introverts who carry the shy, loner, wallflower, emo labels.
Ambiversion is somewhere in between these two extremes. Ambiverts are individuals who have both introverted and extroverted qualities. And the personality direction they lean on varies depending on their present circumstances.
Ambivert: How Will I Know If I’m One?
These are the 5 most common signs of ambiversion.
- You and the people around you find it difficult to categorize your personality traits.
When taking personality quizzes, you find yourself relating to both extroverted and introverted characteristics. And when you ask your loved ones and your friends about it, some may see you as an introvert while others swear you’re an extrovert. If this is the case then, you’re a mix of both – an ambivert.
- You feel drained after being around a lot of people, but you also have the tendency to be unproductive when left on your own.
You feel no qualms about meeting new people. But spending a considerable amount of your time with others can be quite taxing and usually leaves you drained, in dire need of some me-time. On the other hand, if you’re left to your own devices, you have the tendency to dilly-dally, lounge around or do things not related to the supposed task that needs to get done and end up being unproductive.
- You can be the life of the party or be the quiet wallflower.
When in the company of people you’re comfortable with, you can be friendly and loud. But in a new crowd, you’re content to sit in one corner and observe the people around you. That is why those who don’t really know you see you as someone shy, quiet and reserved. But your friends know better.
- You have a hard time making decisions.
Ambiverts fear to make decisions by themselves. If you’re one [or think you are!], you tend to overthink things out and are usually torn between mulling over the problem or talking the ears out of your friends over whatever it is that’s bothering you.
- You have the tendency to focus on yourself more.
Me-centrism is common among ambiverts. You think of things in your own terms based on your own emotions, desires, and views. This may not be a big deal for you, but others may see this as selfishness.
On the other hand, you have a better grip on your emotions, unlike most extroverts and introverts. For one, when you get angry, you just don’t explode or keep things to yourself. You tend to be more rational about it – knowing when to hold on and when to let go.
Making the Most of Your Life as an Ambivert
Not fitting into either side of the personality spectrum may feel like you’re in limbo. But being an ambivert is something to be thankful for.
For one, experts agree that ambiverts are more resilient. They adapt more readily to the situation they are in and with the people they interact with. And as they possess both introverted and extroverted qualities, they have no problem talking to others or listening to them – whatever is the need.
As a matter of fact, one research concluded that ambiverts are better salespersons than extroverts, contrary to the belief that the latter is the most effective in the said field. This is because individuals with this mixed personality trait know how to listen to their customers’ needs as much as they know how to make a selling sales pitch.
Personalities can never be viewed through black and white lenses. There will always be shades of other hues in between. All we have to do is be accepting of ourselves and make the most of who we are.